Where Successful People Hang Out

Tuesday, 24 February 2009 at 3:00 am Pacific USA Time.

The Whine Seller had a great blog post earlier this month that reminded me of something I wanted to write about. Hillary's comment about the most succesful people not really hanging out on discussion boards reminded me of what I wanted to share.

It started when I was telling a friend that I like to use meetup.com, which I do, and that back in Tucson, I made my best friends from people I met there. Two couples from a "dining out" group and one couple from a "small business" group. I was telling this friend that I also like to go to Law Of Attraction meetups because I do believe that you can make what you want happen.

My friend suggests that I stop going to those meetings. Huh? Why? She asked me if the people who are successfully using the Law of Attraction and creating everything they want in their lives are going to this meeting.

I'd never thought of that.

No, it's mostly people who want to create things, but haven't made them happen yet or fully. My friend pointed out that in that case, the people coming to the meetings probably are coming from a place of lacking what they want in their lives. They'll be thinking about that lack, they'll be talking about it, and that'll be their focus… not having what they want. Surrounding myself with those people won't raise my game!

So I said, OK, we'll go to the next meeting with the focus of, "Let's just meet nice people who could be friends," and not think about the rest. Husband and I went. Looked around at nearly 70 people there. Saw really bizarre people. Finally, my husband says to me, "I don't want to talk to anybody here but you. When I'm in a group like this, I'm looking for winners. I'm looking for people who have their shit together. I don't see any." I guess that's a bit judgmental, but I didn't see any either. So I think we're done with that group. :)

Hillary's blog post reminded me of that when she talked about the most successful Lulu.com authors not being part of their discussion forums. When you go to a discussion board to get help with eBay, are the most successful eBay sellers there? Probably not. They are probably very busy running their businesses, and are not hanging out on these boards. That doesn't mean that the people who are there are failures – they're not! But they may not be the top sellers on the site. And if they're the angry villagers with torches, they're probably not the most successful sellers.

My good marketing message today is think about who you surround yourself with… successful people? Complainers? Angry people? People who couldn't make things happen for themselves? Make deliberate choices to surround yourself with successful people who support you. :)

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2 Responses to “Where Successful People Hang Out”

  1. Hillary says:

    I think if you are really successful, as a rule, you are pretty busy and don’t really have a chance to hang out anywhere. I don’t want to make a sweeping generalization because there are exceptions to every rule but in sometimes the people who hang out in message boards all over the web are people without much to do. Just like, those who cannot do, teach or whatever that mean cliche is can apply here. Those that cannot do, talk about it on message boards!

  2. Reminds of the old saying –
    A person’s success is determined by the company he keeps.